Confidence - A little help
Hope your all ok
I have always wanted to use this blog in a lot of different ways, reviewing make up and clothes, talking about my life and what is going on in it, but I also want to try and help people too.
I know I have spoken about loving ourselves a little bit more before but this is going to be about having a little bit more confidence. Whether that is with work, your personality, school college, your body or anything.
When I was younger I was not confident at all, I would look down to the ground and not really put myself out there and it was because of the way I had been treated.
Now I can look back on that time and think of Amy Farrah Fowler from The Big Bang Theory, in one of the episodes she is talking about what she had, a best friend and a boyfriend and how she wished she could go back and tell her 13 year old self that it does get better. I wish I could do that too.
Confidence starts from within, it is something that you feel deep down, either when you can walk into school on the day of a presentation and know you have all the information in your head, or leaving the house in that really cute dress that hugs and skims you in all the right places and you feel like a million dollars.
For me the best feeling I have ever had in the entire world is when I was at uni and had just finished a performance, hearing your audience clap and seeing the smiles on their faces knowing I was part of what had made them so happy. I was in a show once where I had to sing a solo, and I will tell the truth I am still not confident enough to sing in front of people on my own I just don't have that confidence, but in the show I wasn't me I was this character and she was happy to sing, but at the end this lady came up to me, I had no idea who she was and she just tapped my arm and took me to one side and said ''your voice is amazing well done'' I still think of it and it gives me little butterflies in my tummy thinking about a random women telling me what she thought.
The biggest problem I had with confidence was confidence in my body, which a lot of people suffer with, I was the same, I hated my body, I tried so many fad diets that I would get bored with and then go back to the way I was before. I started to not like how I was yoyoing from a size 20 to a size 14 and back again, I thought to myself, why are you doing this, and I thought about it for so long and I realised I am doing it to fit in, I am doing it to compete with people around me, at the time all the people I was hanging out with were so pretty and so skinny and I wanted to be like them, but I am not them I am me, and me is all I can be.
I realised that I am not trying to get thin for me, that is why I am failing because deep down no I don't want to do this, and so I was giving up. I was happy being me, I like going out and having nice food and not having to think what do I need to do at the gym tomorrow to get rid of this food. I like the way I look, and it took my 26 years to realise no I don't hate my body, it is the only body I have and I love it.
Building the confidence to tell people was easier then I thought and they all said it was fine and agreed with me that I didn't need to change.
If people want to loose weight or wanted to change something about themselves then I will back them, but you need to make sure you are doing it for the right reasons, otherwise one day you will think like I did and wonder why you are doing it.
It will not come overnight, it will take time, what I said before is pick one thing you no to be true, whether it is one fact for a test you need to take or one thing you like about yourself, think about that fact, think positive and you will get there, that confidence will grow and before you realise, it will be second nature for you to hold your head high and strut into that classroom, exam hall, work or down street knowing you are confident and it will be AMAZING.
Lots of Love