Monday, 26 August 2019

My Medical Condition.


I have a little job query, but in order to ask my question, I need to tell you a little bit about a medical condition that I have, so in the spirit of sharing, sit back, relax and I will tell you what happened when I was born.

I was a very special baby, not only did my mom NOT know she was pregnant, but I was also a premature baby, they could tell this by my size. So I was put straight into an incubator to give me a bit of a fighting chance.

My mom has this picture of me at home in the incubator with tubes and things, it must have been so scary for her. So from when I was born till I was a couple days old I had my fist clenched and when I finally opened it my mom was in for a shock.

I was born with an extra thumb! This is also known as thumb duplication or polydactyly of the thumb.


     (You can just about see my two thumbs)

On my right hand I had 4 fingers and two thumbs, both thumbs were deformed, and I eventually had one of them removed. I had quite a few operations on the remaining thumb while I was growing up, I even once had to have it straightened and the only thing small enough to be able to do the job was a paperclip!!! Honestly no lie, I had a paper clip in my thumb.

(You can see the deformation from after the extra thumb was removed)

I was also told that if by the age of 21 my thumb looked unproportionate to my hand they would look at cosmetic surgery to match it if I wanted to. I have never had that problem, my hands are quite small so my thumb looks in proportion with my hand. 

So this brings me to this year. I have always known because of my joints in my thumb that I have to be careful, if I knock it or bang it or when it gets cold, I need to just be careful with it. So at Christmas while at work I ended up trapping my thumb in-between two trays and it really hurt. I ended up in a and e and having X rays and there was also the possibility of me having to have another operation. This was the thing I dreaded the most. I hate operations, I have had so many bad experiences with them and the thought of it makes me feel sick. 

Thankfully I haven't had to have an operation and after some exercises, pain killers and rest the pain had gone, but it showed me how fragile my thumb is.

It also got me thinking, if I was to apply for another job, what do I tick on that section where it says Disability, do I say yes? I have never seen my thumb as a Disability, it has never stopped me doing anything, but it is an ongoing medical condition, so where would I write that?

(This is how my thumb looks now, scars and all)

It also made me worry that if I was to say I have an ongoing medical problem, would that stop me from getting the job? Like I said I have never had my thumb stop me from doing anything (except bowling, it's not strong enough to support the ball so I have to use my left hand).

What do you advise I do? I know this is a random insite into my life but I want to share more with you about me and I guess this is part of who I am. My weird little paperclipped thumb!

See you later
Lottie
Xxx

Tuesday, 26 March 2019

Adoption

Something has been bugging .... no not bugging, that is too nice a word, something has been down right peeing me off for about a week and a half and I am finally ready to talk about it.

There are thousands of children in the UK who are waiting to be adopted, I see lots of adverts looking for people who are interested in adopting. There is even a week in October dedicated to making people aware of children in the adoption system. You see posts about how it doesn't matter if you are a single person, a couple, gay or straight and there was even a push to find adoptive parents from different ethnic backgrounds.





When Paul and I started to look into adoption, I had heard stories from other larger women who told me that they had been turned down for adoption because of their size. I was so shocked because I had never heard of this, I honestly thought ''no it can't be true it had to have been because of something else''. So a couple weeks ago when we contacted a couple of local adoption agencies you can imagine my shock and disgust when I was told that we would have to be working towards a BMI of 40 or below in order for us to be considered as good adoptive parents. All adoption agencies require you to be a fit and healthy person.

SO what about me? My current BMI is 42.5 which means I am just out of that range, but what I would like to know is what has my BMI got to do with who I am as a person. The argument around the weight and adoption is that if you are at an unhealthy weight, you will not be fit enough to look after a child. Yes because all of us fatties are the worst of the worst you know we are the spot of the face of humanity and we deserve to not have kids.

 What about all those fat babes who have children biologically I hear you ask. Well fear not you will not have a doctor burst into your labour room and remove your child. That's right if I could have a child I would be totally fine, I wouldn't need to have a BMI of 40 or less. I could have as many children as possible, but the minute I want to give a child a home, loving parents and a life without social services being involved I need to be a ''healthy'' weight.

I am a nice person, my husband is a nice person, we have two lovely dogs, a nice home, we cook from scratch at least 4 times a week. We take our dogs for long walks to national trust locations, we have family close to where we live. One of the best schools in our area is at the bottom of our road and the park is across from our front door. I think these are the things you need to look at for a family, not my weight.

I do not think that enough people know that this is going on, it is not made public but this kind of thing is discriminating against fat people. I understand that you need to be able to look after your children, but being fit and healthy is not something you can tell by looking at anyone. Also if it is because they want adoptive parents to run around with their children, what about parents who are in wheelchairs? This whole thing makes me angry. I can't say more then that, I am so mad about this. I am a good person and all I want is to be a good parent. Why wont they let me?

Lottie
Xxx


Wednesday, 16 January 2019

Weightloss questions

Weight loss is a very hard thing to do, you have to plan and put time into helping yourself get to a place you want to be. It can be so hard for people if you have no idea where to start. So I am working with a few bloggers on a Weight loss question post, we have come up with question to answer to give you that little boost you need to start off your journey.

1. What is the reason for your weight loss?
As I have said in my previous blog, the reason I want to lose weight is because I want to begin IVF treatment, if you want to know more about my journey take a look at my blog post here.

2. What pitfalls have you come across that have made your weight loss journey unsuccessful?
My name is Charlotte and I have no self control!!! I am terrible when it comes to controlling myself, I will start off really good and see the weight coming off, but if I have a bad day or I am too tired to cook, I will just opt for a take away or chocolate. I need to learn to plan more for meals and have it all planned out for my week, I also need more lunch ideas. At work we don't have a microwave so I need idea's for cold lunches (if you have any please leave them in the comments).

3. What are your favourite meal ideas for healthy eating?
When I am in full focus mode I am so good with cooking and keeping to points (I am currently on Weight Watchers) I have made a few meals that I love. I have this ''Spanish'' chicken meal I make that it is so nice. I also love making soups, my favourite is Carrot and Coriander.




4. What are your favourite exercises?
I don't mind when I am at the gym, my biggest problem is going to the gym, so I have recently downloaded the ''Couch to 5k'' app, I have Sarah Millican in my ears egging me on and it really helps. The app is made so it gradually gets you from a non runner to running 5k in around about 30 min, over the course of 9 weeks. I like running and it really helps me to get out of my head. I am also looking into yoga, I am a total newbie to this so I am looking into different yoga youtube channels to see where to start. I have been introduced to ''Yoga with Adriene'' on youtube and she is currently doing a 30 day yoga journey that I am going to begin. I am so excited.

5. How do you stay motivated?
I am not going to lie, it is so hard for me to focus, and I have cried and hated myself more then once, but I have also created a folder on my pintrest that has baby pictures and nursery pictures in to remind me why I am doing this. Also I need to remember that if I have a bad day, that is fine, I just wake up the next morning and start again. This is a marathon not a sprint. I am not going to lose 6 stone in a week and I just need to get back on that horse, stop hating myself and remember why I am doing this, for my baby.

6. How to you celebrate your success?
I have decided that every time I lose a stone I am going to reward myself, so on my first stone loss I am going to get my hair cut, second I am getting it coloured, third my nails are going to be done, that's really all I have so far, but I know my sixth stone I am getting a full new wardrobe.

7. Have you set an overall goal?
My doctor has told me in order to begin looking into IVF I would need to get down to 10 stone, so I need to lose 6 stone. I think my overall lose may be a little bit more then that, but I will see how I go and take it day by day.

8. Do you follow other weight loss social media accounts, if so who are your favourites?
I have a few, my main faves are all fellow WW people, my fav's are : mamabear_wwuk she was the first person I spoke to, and she has given me a lot of support, ww_paul has amazing food ideas, and he also introduced me to Heck chicken sausages and I love them, healthyjoanne has been amazing, she was in the WW magazine and I happened to tag her in a instagram story, and she messaged me, she is so lovely.

9. Where do you buy your work out clothing?
As of yet I haven't bought any but I have my eyes on the new Alice Liveing and Primark collaboration for sports wear, they go up to larger sizes which I think is really good. The collection has pinks and greys and they are my favourite colours.




10. What advice would you give to a weight loss newbie?
My advice would be plan your meals, as I said before I have a huge problem with meals and I am finding myself falling over when it comes to going to work. So the more I plan the better I will be, also if you have a day were you just eat everything in sight, don't worry, it is one day in a long journey, and even if 1 day turns into 1 week, draw a line under it and start again. You got this.


I hope these questions have helped you in some way, I have teamed up with

Yorkshire mum of 4

Herding Cats

Steffs Journey

to collaborate on this blog, so make sure you go and check them out too, as their advice will be different to mine and you can see how weight loss is for people of different sizes.

See you soon
Lots of Love
Lottie Xxx

Saturday, 12 January 2019

My Baby Journey

My baby journey, as many of you know, has not been an easy one. After 3 years of trying, there is sadly still no sign of a bump. So I have decided to take a leap of medical faith and listen to the doctor. I have joined Weight Watchers and am going to lose some weight.

Not gonna lie I have been so scared to write this, because I worry that I will get backlash from some people in the plus size community. I know that I might not, but my anxiety tells me that people will think I am turning my back on the fat life and giving it up. The truth is that yes there are plenty of women out there who are fat and can have children, but the other truth is I am not one of those women. So in order for me to have my family I need to lose some weight and see if it gives us that chance of having a baby.

I have always said that if you want to lose weight then do it, be who ever you want to be, but I also said if you do want to lose weight, do it for the right reasons, not because you think it will make you popular, or the women you see on social media look like that, do it because it is what you want. A baby has always been in my head as what I want and if losing weight is what I need to do to get a baby I will do it, but I am doing it for me and my family.

In a post a few weeks ago I spoke about how doctors have told me that I need to lose weight in order to be considered for IVF, back then that doctor told me I would need to lose 6 stone. I have no shame in saying I am 16 stone (or at least the last time I weighed myself I was). So I need to get to 10 stone or less in order for our IVF journey to begin.

For anyone who is interested I will be writing 1 blog post every month dedicated to my weight loss, so you can follow along and see how I am getting on. So ... why Weight Watchers? Well in the past if I wanted to lose weight I went to Slimming World, I found it helpful and I felt that I could eat a lot. However, since stepping back and looking at it from another direction I have seen that it is a bit weird and more of a making money plan. For example, in 2017 Slimming World had a dispute with Asda over some ready meals they had come out with, the packaging stated that the meals were ''free to enjoy following the Slimming World Extra Easy Plan''. The reason SW gave for the dispute was :

        ''Slimming World sought an injunction over the use of their trademark on the 12 meals, claiming the company (Asda) had not supplied enough information on ingredients used.'' (taken from the Telegraph 19th March 2017)

I believe that the ingredient's had nothing to do with it. I think they did this because they had a deal with Iceland and the meals Asda were selling were cheaper then the Iceland meals, which meant the sales went down and they lost money. Another example is Heck sausages, when I was on SW Heck sausages were syn free, after I left even tho the ingredients to the sausages never changed, the syn value went up and why did it go up? I believe it was because the sale of SW sausages went down. I know this makes me sound like I'm bashing them and I don't mean to because for some people this plan works, but I just find it strange how they change the rules so quickly. 

I started Weight Watchers just before Christmas, I was getting used to the plan in December but now I am able to find my way properly around the app I find it is so much easier to use and it is not that strict either. You have 24 daily points called SP's (Smart Points) to use, all food is pointed differently, some foods are 0 sps, these you can have as many as you like as you are not using any points, then other things are pointed. It is all about giving you the tools to make the choices. The app even has a full section for restaurant's, so if I choose to go to a very well know Fried Chicken place, I know how many points I will use. 

My favourtie part is that every week you have what is called weeklies, which are 44 points you can use at any time in the week. So its like a back up, if you know your going to go out on Friday for a meal you can use your daily points in the day and then have 44 points to use on your dinner, and you still know that you can possibly still have lost weight. 

I have noticed already that I am making better choices about what I eat because I don't want to spend a lot of points on particular meals. I love having points left over on the night time to have a bit of a treat tray, so I know that I can look forward to having nice yummy stuff at the end of the day. 

So far I am finding it very easy to use and I honestly do feel it different. Unfortunately I am not moving a lot at the moment because I am off sick from work, but as soon as I am moving about more the weight will come off me even quicker. 

I am also looking into the Coach to 5k app, I have downloaded it on my phone and I love that I can have Sarah Millican keep me company while I am running. I want to be a bit more active too, so for me it isn't about how quickly the weight can come off, it is more about how much more I am able to move around and not get out of breath by just walking up the stairs.

Anyway I have rabbited on about this for a while now so, I will leave it here, but if you do want to follow my weight loss and baby journey a bit more closely then please follow my Instagram which you can find here. I post everyday and let you know how I am getting on with food and ovulating and all that fun stuff. 

See you soon
Lots of Love 
Lottie 
Xxx













Tuesday, 1 January 2019

2019

I have always thought that ''New Year New Me'' is a bit s**t, I don't think you should need to wait for the 1st January to make any changes. 

 That being said, I am making a bit of a change to my life this year. As many of you know, Paul and I have been trying for a baby for a very long time (3 years in May to be precises). I have had appointments with doctors and they have said that the only way for us to get any kind of IVF treatment or medical help with getting pregnant is for me to loose some weight. To be exact 6 stone!

On 5th December I weighed myself and I was 16 stone, since then I have lost 9 lbs, although the last time I weighed myself was boxing day and I have eaten so many goodies since then so I may have gained this week but that is ok. I want everyone to understand I am still very body positive and very happy right now with how my body looks. I also have one thought that follows me everyday and that is that I want a baby. 

I know people will say but plus size women have babies all the time, which is true, but try telling any women who has been trying for nearly 3 years to relax and it will happen. I have tired just trying, I have tried tracking ovulation, I have tried not think about it. Trust me this is the LAST option I wanted to take. As I said before I am happy with who I am right now, I don't feel that I HAVE to loose weight, I want to and being body positive is all about accepting any body at any size. 

If you would like to follow my journey to loosing weight and trying for a baby you can follow it here.

Something else I am going to do this year is begin a new section to my blog. A topic I have always been interested in is murderers, which I understand some people will think is weird but oh well, I love it. It is going to be called Mid Month Murderer and I got the idea from a new youtube channel I have began to watch. A women called Stephanie Harlowe, she is a Youtuber who has a weekly video called Mystery Monday, and she talks about murder mysteries and also recently has began to look into Cults (which is my next venture). I will link her channel here, so you can go and check her out. My first murderer I will be looking into is Nannie Doss AKA The Giggling Granny, in the middle of January, so keep your eyes peeled for that. 

That is it for now as an update and I hope that you understand my reasons behind loosing weight. I will be back soon. 

Lots of Love 
Lottie
Xxx

 

Wednesday, 7 November 2018

My Body and The Doctor

I have wanted to wait to write this because I didn't want it to come across as a rant. I wanted to look into it properly and  make sense of things in my own head before I put it all down online and have people come back at me in a negative way, although to be honest I feel that will happen anyway.

Myself and Paul have been trying for a baby for a while (3 years in fact), a few month ago I went to the doctors and was refereed to the hospital to have tests done. Before I go on I want to say that I understand that the NHS is very overstretched, doctors are overworked and I get that but I did not feel the doctor I saw was polite, and she just saw me as a walking piece of fat.

I was looked at like it was my own fault that I wasn't able to have a baby. Yes I love cake and chocolate and cheese and food in general, but why should I be looked at like a piece of filth because of my choice of life. I am a good person, I am a friendly person, I am so much more then the fat on my body, I will make a bloody good mother, and I am not going to let some doctor look at me like that because I am overweight.

I was told that I could get a test to check that I was ovulating at the right time, but that it didn't matter because if I wasn't I would have to loose 6 and a half stone before they would help me. I felt like the doctor didn't really care about what was stopping us having a baby an that, to her, it was clearly the fact that I was overweight. This was not the first time I have been fat shamed by a doctor. I can not tell you the amount of times I have been to the doctor for something totally unrelated to my weight, such as my mental health, and the conversation has turned to my weight and if I have ever considered going on a diet.

I am an active person, myself and Paul go for a lot of walks, camping and I love being outside. Having our dogs defiantly helps, but I also love my food, does that make me bad???

I am not the only person who has been fat shamed by doctors. I have been speaking to a lovely lady called Hannah, (Fabfatmama follow her Instagram here she is amazing) she has a gorgeous little girl, but when she was born by C-section, Hannah was confronted by 10 doctors telling her if she did not loose weight she would be dead by the age of 30. If this was said in a tweet or a comment on Facebook on Instagram we would call it trolling, but because it is said by a doctor it is called, medical advice. For me both are exactly the same, someone who is telling someone else how to live there life. Also why would you tell a new mother something like that especially after a C-section.


I understand that doctors will tell me that if I loose weight, I will live longer and be at less of a risk of illness or early death. My argument to this is, I have never had problems with my health, which has solely been put down to my weight. Also there was a very fit and healthy young man who was a famous footballer, in the middle of a match he dropped down on the pitch and died of a heart attack, he was fit and healthy and playing football, which is exercising. So it goes to show you can be fit and healthy and still sadly pass away at a young age.

My view on health care in the UK at the moment is way too long to explain here and I know it will turn into a rant, but in a nut shell, people are living longer and the funding is not there to support the growing population of older people. Which means they are suffering. If we can't look after older people what is the point in living longer when you wont be looked after to the right slandered.

I feel a lot of doctors, not all but a lot, are not better then trolls, they make fat people feel like utter crap, when all we are doing is enjoying our life and our food. what is so bad about that?

I really hope this didn't come across as a rant and that people understand what I am trying to say about doctors and trolls being double standards.

See You Soon
Lots of Love
Lottie
Xxx


Sunday, 7 October 2018

Curve Fashion Festival

There are 3 F words I love, they are Food (obviously), Fashion and Fun, if you then add Make up into the mix, well that is just my perfect place. Thank fully I don't have to wait to long to go to this little piece of heaven, which is also called Curve Fashion Festival.

Curve this year is being held at St George's Place in Liverpool on the 17th November. One of my favourite things about CFF (Curve Fashion Festival) is that ever year it just gets bigger and bigger. This is such an amazing and powerful thing. It shows that there is a need for events like this and also shows that there are now so many more brands out there who are catering for us fat people.

Just like previous years there will be a fashion hall for all of us looking to update our wardrobe or those of us who just want to check out what is new with brands such as Topsy Curvy, Marks and Spencer's and Debenhams.

Debenhams are part of the sponsorship team for Curve this year. When I think of them I instantly think of make up because in my local shop that is the first section that you walk into it. They have a brilliant choice of brands too which I love.

They will showing off their amazing beauty range again this year and I cant wait to see it. If you fancy a sneek peek at all the goodies they do click this link here to have a look on the website and get a wish list together.

By far the best thing I love about CFF is meeting everyone, I will totally admit that I am the biggest chicken when it comes to going up to people and asking for pictures, but this year I am going to be a bit more confident and ask EVERYONE I know for a selfie, so if you see me then come over and jump me, I will be vlogging the event for youtube too so that will be brill to get as many people as possible on there.

Here are my favourite pictures from Curve through the years.








I hope to see all of you lovely people there and again if you see me, come jump on me for a picture!!

See you soon,
Lots of love
Lottie
Xxx





Thursday, 4 October 2018

Preparing your Lips For Winter


Luscious, juicy, full and plump. These are all words we use to describe our lovely lips! Sadly for me, most of the time the words I use are cracked, dry and peeling and trust me these are words you never want use for anything let alone your lips. I have had so many problems with my lips from peeling when I wear matte lipsticks, to being soar and cracking in the winter. 

I can't be the only person in the world that has so many problems with my lips, so I thought I would try a few different brands of lip care products and see which I find is the better one for me, then give all you gorgeous people my advice. 

First up I tried Carmex Classic. I had heard of Carmex before but I had never tried it. I spoke to one of my friend's Linzi and she said it was the best. I popped into one shop, Ill let it remain nameless, (but lets say its a very big toiletries place that has the same name as a piece of footwear) and it was £2.69. I went in to Primark and found it for the bargain £1, so there is the first tip, shop around!! Anyway back to the lip balm. It smells like a sweet minty smell, its really nice, it doesn't feel greasy either or sticky. There is a slight shine on your lips when it first goes on but nothing too much. 




I really like this one it did help my lips but I did need to apply it a lot. Maybe it is just me not applying enough to start with. The biggest downside for me with Carmex is that it really makes my lips tingle, just on the verge of stinging which I really don't like. It does help my lips but I just really don't like the feel of it. 


Who remembers those Black Jack sweets from when they were a kid? (Bare with me I haven't changed my blog post this does lead somewhere I promise) They were in the pick n mix section and they tasted like liquorice. Well if your anything like me this next lip balm will have you craving them when you try it!! This is LipQ's Liquorice Balm* and the smell is so good. For anyone suffering from cold soars too, the liquorice is meant to help to keep them away. 

This has a very wet formula, which I found fine, it makes it easier to get out of the tin, you get a lot in one tin too 30g's so you will have it for a while. The price tag is rather high for a lip balm, it is £7.95 so for that I do expect a lot.





I only suffer from cold soars in really bad winter and since I haven't had any while testing this I can't really comment on how it is with them but I will keep you updated. I don't feel like it is greasy and again isn't sticky in anyway. The only downside I would say is that price tag, but as I said I will keep you updated so if I do get any cold soars I will let you know how it deals with them. 


Lastly is this little gem from Neve's Bees, it is their Chocolate Orange lip Balm*. This is a family ran business with a cute story behind it. Neve is the daughter of the owner and when she was 10 she asked her granddad to buy her some bee's for her birthday. So this isn't just some big huge corporation where all they care about is profit. This is a very nice family run company who care about their products and where they are from. The bees make the wax to go inside all the products they sell. The lip balm comes in different flavours and when I got this one the smell was AMAZING, it isn't overpowering or anything, just makes me feel like reaching for a Terry's Chocolate Orange!!!! 

This one I did put through a bit of a big test, I took this to the Lake district with me. It fit really nicely into my make up back because it is nice and compact, but also just slipped into my pocket when I went out for walks. It feels nice on my lips, plus the fact it lets me smell chocolate all day. 






The only downside to it I found was that when I first got it the balm was a little hard but after a couple of swirls it went softer, so do keep swirling when you get yours. It is £4.50 which yes for a lip balm again is on the higher range but if you think it is all natural ingredients from our friends the bees (save the bees) then you know what you are paying for. This is defiantly my favourite lip balm, I just feel that it helped me a lot more then the other two. 

With the winter coming in soon, I really do think you need to take care of your lips, especially if you are like me and you get chapped lips so easily. So check these three out and see what works for you. 

See you Soon 
Lots of Love 
Lottie
Xxx


* This item was gifted to me but all the view's are my own. 

Sunday, 16 September 2018

Jouellerie Review

Marilyn Monroe said diamonds are a girls best friend, well Marilyn sadly some of us don't have the luxury of being able to afford diamonds. Thankfully that is where Jouellerie step in, who say's lovely sparkles have to cost a fortune?

Jouellerie have price's to help everyone and I mean it, the cheapest item on their website is a £1.99 earrings and necklace set, which is so cute. So even if you only have a very small budget you can still find a good bargain. I was sent a lovely parcel from them which contained 6 items, 2 pairs of earrings, a necklace and 3 bracelet. They are all so cute and I wanted to give you a little bit of a review on them.

The first item was this lovely Artemis necklace. It has a large heart pendent covered in Swarovski Elements, the chain is a thick and hollow and it is a really pretty rose colour. My favourite thing about it is it has a magnetic clasp, so even if you are alone you can easily take this on and off.

My down side to this was that it was too small for me, I could only just get this around my neck, so I would say it is about a 16'' maybe even 14'' chain, so keep that in mind before you order it, but for £4.99 it would make a good gift for someone smaller them me.





Next up is a really cute little set for £6.99. It is called Ice and it is a wide 6 row bracelet again with Swarovski Elements, it has a stretch to it, which makes it easy to put on, I will be honest I was worried about this one as normally when I get stretchy bracelets, they will pinch my skin, but this hasn't and I have worn it a couple of times. It also has these little matching earrings. They are a single stone and have those really nice easy backs on. I know some people do prefer to have a metal back rather then a butterfly so maybe these would be good a idea for a little (dare I say it) christmas gift.





I have had a look online and the picture for this set is showing different earrings to the ones I got so I don't know if mine are different or if the ones in the picture online are wrong. I'm not sure.

Another of the bracelet's I got was this very sparkly Pave bracelet, it has 5 rows of Swarovski Elements in and the sparkle that comes off it is amazing. Sadly mine may have had a bit of a fault in it as it doesn't fasten properly, but it is so pretty.




SO these last two I am IN LOVE with!! I cant lie, I love them so much and I have warn these everywhere. The first is this Onyx bracelet, I cant take it off it is just so pretty, the clasp is brill and so easy to do myself so no more running down the stairs to Paul asking him to put it on for me. It goes with all outfits as it doesn't have any colour to it and it is just so cute and easy to wear also for the brill price of £2.99 who can argue.




Lastly is these Crown earring, I wasn't too sure about them at first because they are lot bigger then I would normally have, but I loved them in the end. Normally I only wear small earrings, but these are rather big, for me anyway. They are in a crown setting (well I am a queen I need my crown) and they just look so cute.



If you fancy any of these lovely pieces, don't forget to check out Jouellerie's website, they also sell hats and handbags too.

See you soon
Lots of Love
Lottie
Xxx

Disclaimer - I was gifted these items, but all opinions are my own.





Sunday, 9 September 2018

Wedding Tips for ....

Saving Money


Welcome back to the new series on my blog all about weddings. If you follow me on social media you will know that I got marring in July, so I wanted to pass anything I learnt on to you guys!

I will say this may be a long blog so grab a cuppa and some biccies and let's go!

The Ceremony -

 The first thing I did was look at cheaper options for a location. The registry office for us was such good value and also thanks to me over budgeting, we also had a little extra money left over to add to other things on our list.

 Another way we saved money was by having our wedding on a week day, most people will have a wedding on a Friday or Saturday, so Monday's -Thursday's are so much cheaper. The downside to it is that you may find some guests wont be able to get the time off work, but if you are looking to have a smaller wedding then that may not be a big problem.



Guests -

 That leads onto my next way of saving money, this is a big one, have a smaller guest list. Guests are always going to be so expensive especially for meals as you pay per person. Also most registry offices will only have about 40 people in the room, so if you have more then that it bumps up your costs even more.

 Guests are always hard to cut down on especially if you have a large family and you are close to them, but if you really want to save money you will be like Carrie Bradshaw and be a cut throat bride/groom. So do a list of everyone you want there and work backwards, who really needs to be there, who are you close to. Then ask yourself, should they come to the ceremony or just the evening.



Travelling -

If you are having a car or bus or anything to take you to your venue's then again having a week day wedding will help again with money, the company you use will probably give you a bit of a discount for a weekday as they wont be using the cars anyway. Another way of saving money is to try something unique, if you live in places like Manchester, Birmingham or Sheffield why not try being different and trying out the tram as a way to get there. I recently saw a post about a women who took the tube to her wedding in London.

We went with a company called Horgans, they are based in Manchester and I would 100% recomend them if you are close by. They really did help to put us all at ease. Especially when me and my dad were in the car on the way to the ceremony, I was so nervous and they just talked and helped me and we just had a laugh.







DIY's -

I went nuts on DIY's for my wedding, I did everything from the centre pieces, gift and cards box, family picture frames, a fairy light curtain backdrop, place cards and so many more. They made the whole thing a lot more personal and they weren't hard to do either, it was really easy. Trust me if I can do it and I have no creativity so can you.

There are so many youtube tutorials that I watched to do with wedding DIY's my favourite came from The Sorry Girl's, they are amazing and they really got my creative juices flowing for me. Not to mention Pinterest helped A LOT!!








Reception Location -

We were so lucky with out reception, we had it at our favourite pub, the staff are lovely and it is such a pretty place and the food is amazing. We lucked out because we only had to pay for our food and drink so it was such an amazing way to save money.

We had our reception at a gorgeous place called The Walton Arms, which is part of The Village Inns company, the manager was lovely and helped every step of the way. They even cordered off a part of their car park so we could have our group photographs. It gave us that space to just relax with our photographer and not have to rush to move on.




I am going to be doing a full blog soon about my dress but trust me I got it as a bargain but I wanted to wait and do a full post on it.

I hope this has helped a little with any wedding planning budgeting, but if you need anymore help just comment below and I will help you out anyway I can.

See you soon
Lots of Love
Lottie
Xxx









Sunday, 19 August 2018

Wedding Tips for ...

Budgeting

You will hear this a million times but weddings are ridiculously expensive and trust me when you feel like you have paid it all off and everything is under control, something will jump up and bite you. There will always be something that you didn't think of and didn't plan for and it will stress you the hell out, but at the end of the day it is the best day of your life and you want it to be perfect.

I know for a fact my biggest stress while planning the wedding was money, I had my diary and my schedule, 4 (yes 4) to do lists and it still seemed like there were things that I didn't think of. SO now that my wedding is over with here are the things that I had to pay for. There will obviously be different things that I had that you may not want, or things that you want and I didn't have so just add them in or take them away and just think of how much you will want to spend.

SO my list (hold tight)

Registry office - Booking fee
                         - Notice of Marriage (Not needed if you get married in a church)
                         - Ceremony
                         - Wedding Certificate (You get 1 official copy and you pay for others, I got 4 copies just so I had them to send off to places, doctors, bank, work, phone, driving licence, passport ect)

Reception - Booking fee,
                 - Food (Both wedding breakfast and night time buffet)
                 - Drinks (if you having drinks or arrival, toasts etc)
                 - DJ
                 - Rooms (getting ready in the morning or if you are staying there the night)
                 - Decorations ( I did a LOT of DIY's, so saved so much money)
                 - Cake

The Bride - Hair and Make up (if you do a trial, you will also have to pay for this)
                 - THE DRESS
                 - Dress alterations (this can be A LOT of money so make sure you budget a lot)
                 - Shoes (maybe even a 2nd pair for if you heels hurt)
                 - Underwear
                 - Wedding perfume
                 - Emergency kit (things like safety pins, plasters, ear buds - tip if you cry, ear buds are a quick clean up and they don't wreak your winged liner)
                 - Bag (keep a powder in to reapply, lippy, perfume, maybe spare bobby pins, phone)
                 - Jewellery
                 - Hair accessorise
             
The Groom - Suit
                    - Shoes
                    - Underwear
                 
Transport - Cars/ Buses/ Taxi
                 - Booking fee
               
Bridesmaids - Dresses
                     - Shoes
                     - Hair and Make up
                     - Gifts (to say thank you for being apart of your special day)

Groomsmen - Suits
                     - Shoes
                     - Gifts (Same as the bridesmaids)

Flowers - Brides
              - Bridesmaids
              - Button holes
              - Reception flowers for decoration
              - Gifts for mothers

Miscellaneous - Wedding Rings (Get them the earlier the better, it may take time to get them in)
                        -  Photographer
                        - Pictures for decoration
                        - Guest book
                     

These are just some thing there is so much more you can have, but these are a few things we did and didn't have.

I am going to be writing a post about saving money soon, since mine and Paul's budget was £2000 all together, so you don't need to spends loads on a wedding to make it special. If you like this series then please keep an eye out and I will give you a few more wedding tips.

See you Soon
Lots of love
Lottie
Xxx


Lippy Love

There used to be a time in my life where I didn't wear lipstick. I didn't like the way it felt and I thought it just didn't look right one me.

Fast forward a few years and I have a huge collection! Lipsticks, lip glossed, liquids, lattes, shines. You name it I have it. I love different colours too, my favourites are pinks, nudes and reds. I am always on the search for the best lipstick, the one that will stay on no matter what, if I drink, eat or kiss I want it to stay on. My problem is I am a lip licker, I can't not do it, so it tends to take lipsticks off, but one day I will find that one that doesn't come off.

Anyway back to my love! I want to show you my current faves lipsticks, these are ones I use all the time and ones I cant do without.


Revolution Soph Nude Lipstick - Cake 

Mmmmm cake (flash backs of Sarah Millican's cake pigeon). Yes there is actually a lipstick called Cake!!! Soph from Soph does Nails, has done 3 collabs now with Revolution Make Up, her third was a set of 3 lipsticks, with the most delicious names, Cake, Syrup and Fudge. When she introduced these lipsticks on her Youtube channel I saw how nice and pinky toned Cake was and I needed it in my life.

I got mine from Revolutions website but they can also be purchased from Superdrug too. The formula is so creamy, it stays really nicely on your lips and for me the colour is like my lips but better. Dare I say it, it is my perfect nude. Yes I actually said it (gasp).

Not only is the lipstick it self so pretty but the packaging is so cute, it is a light nude colour on the bottom with the lid in  rose gold, when you open it the tube is all rose gold.





Revolution Pro Supreme Matte Lip Pigment - Inconspicuous 

I can't really talk about my favourite lipsticks without including the one I wore on my wedding day. Wedding lipstick it something I wanted to make sure was perfect for a two reasons, 1 - pictures, 2 - our kiss. Paul doesn't like the lipsticks that come off on his lips when we kiss, so I needed something that really was god and wouldn't come off easy.

My dress was 50's style and to me the first thing that comes to my head with I think of the 1950's is a red lip, so that is what I wanted. I searched high and low to find that perfect cute red that I had in my head. I tried Sleek, Mac, Urban Decay and I couldn't find that right colour. Until one day out at Superdrug on my break from work I saw it right there, this bright cute red and I know ''that's the one''. At the bargain price of £4!

I love the colour it is an orange red, with I think is just perfect for me. It applies quiet think so little is more, you need to give it a little time to dry, but when it does you have a lippy that is kiss proof. It did come off when I had a drink but Paul was safe for the first kiss as Mr and Mrs.





Sleek Lip V.I.P Lipstick - Dream Decade

What is life without a bright pink lipstick?? Well for me I have quite a few but I love them so much, bright pink is such my colour and most of summer is spent in one. So picking my fave is quite hard, but when you have a lippy like Dream Decade then picking becomes a little bit easier.

I got this from boots and I just love it. I have spoke about this a while ago in another blog, but I can't help but list it again, it is just so pretty. This pink honestly reminds me of Kelly from Jelly with the Belly, just because it looks like her hair, which I also love!!!

This one is again creamy but the down side is I do find it does that weird thing in the corner of my lips where it sort of bunches together and goes all weird, it looks like my lips are dry and flaky,  I don't know if this happens to just me or others too, but I find it is a down side for me, but my love of the colour overcomes that.




Urban Decay Comfort Matte Vice Lipstick - Bad Blood 

No Bad Blood is not just a Taylor Swift song, it is a lovely deep red lipstick that was my first purchase from Urban Decay. I had never made a high end purchase before so when I was mooching around the stand I didn't really think I would buy anything. I wanted something that was red because I love red, and I spoke to the girl on the counter about which finish I wanted, I had never had a matte before but she said that this was a nice creamy matte instead of a dry matte.

I had always had problems with my lips when ever I tried a matte lipstick so I wasn't sure if I wanted to go with one or not, but with it being more of a comfort matte it has moisture in it so it isn't as drying as others.

This is more of my winter colours, I love having my pale skin (no fake tan for me), my dark hair and a darker lip in winter, it just makes me happy.




New Look Pure Colour Lipstick - Mink 

I was not sure if I should put this one in my blog as technically you cant get this one anymore but it really is one of my favourite nude lipsticks. I have had it for a while and now it is getting to the end I am getting so sad that I wont be able to get it again.

I got this from New Look about 2 years ago and I just love it. It's a high shine lipstick in nude, it is super creamy and super cute to wear especially if you have a nice bold eye look, this is probably another one of my my lips but better lipsticks. It also has a nice smell, which I don't really think is a normal thing for lipstick but it really does. It smells quite floral. So from now on when I go shopping I will make sure this is in my bag so I can compare the colour to other lipsticks.




So these are my favourites .... for now, but my collection will grow and my favourites will change. Which colours of lippy do you love? Are any of these yours??

See you soon
Lots of love
Lottie
Xxx